4 Unconventional
Wedding Truths

Love is one of the most profound feelings that we can experience. It not only provides us with an incredible sense of nourishment, but it also challenges us to grow.

Coming into union highlights the love that has been cultivated between two people.

As we reflect upon our wedding day and the months leading up to it, we have learned some beautiful lessons.

Let us share 4 unconventional truths that you are not likely to hear other people talk about when it comes to weddings :)

1. The foundation needs to be solid. 

Just as the roots of a tree need to be deeply rooted, the love and communication in your relationship needs to be strong. If they are not, the “winds” of a wedding can compromise the roots of your relationship… Don’t let it!

• Pro tip: You and your partner decide 3 things that matter the most to you to create your ideal wedding. Once you have clarity, it will help you to make decisions that align with your vision.

2. Let go of the “people-pleasing.” 

You better believe that people will have many requests/opinions regarding YOUR wedding. And by trying to “please” everyone, you will compromise the focus of what you are celebrating - the union of you coming together as one.

• Pro tip: Healthy boundaries - even if it’s uncomfortable, you need them. Remember, boundaries protect the integrity of your relationship, even if those boundaries need to be set with yourself :)

3. It’s not a competition. 

You’ve seen those fairytale weddings that are all “glammed up,” but they don’t highlight the internal struggles people endure to host these “exclusive” weddings. 

When you are comparing yourself to other people’s weddings, you give away your power and rob yourself of your creative vision of what matters the most to you!

• Pro tip: Your ability to navigate through the outside noise and listen to the voice of your desires MATTERS. Once you envision what your wedding looks and feels like, quit the scrolling and comparison...that’s just going to overwhelm you.

4. Don’t forget to have FUN! 

Remember when you were a little kid and danced and laughed your way through life? You embraced joy with everything that you did. It was the simple things that made you feel so happy and free.

You can choose to let go of what you think this day “needs to be” and allow space for love to flow. When you stand in front of the love of your life, and you are about to commit yourself to this person forever, nothing else will matter. The background noise fades away, and all you hear, and feel, is the energy of the person standing before you.

Say “YES” to making this an amazing experience :)

• Pro tip: Ask yourself this: What would it be like to approach this ENTIRE process of planning, organizing, creating, building, and visualizing with JOY!? Imagine if you made joy your entire focus of this journey? It’s possible.

Our final words:

Remember to be present in the moment during your big day. Don't allow yourself to get pulled in different directions and lose focus on why you are there in the first place. This is about YOUR relationship and the celebration of YOUR union. Big events and challenges that you experience together can deepen your connection as lovers and teammates. Allow yourself to remain open and lovingly honest with one another. 

Soak up every moment and dance the night away!

Congratulations on a successful and joyful wedding!

- Jake & Melissa Woodard